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Being in a relationship can really be fulfilling. You have someone to share your life with, and you also have someone who you can confide in. If you want to make sure that your relationship goes the distance, then there are a few things that you can do to help both yourself and your partner.
Cut Poor Relationships Sooner than Later
It may sound very counter-intuitive, but you really can’t make every relationship work. It’s not good for either of you. The more time you waste dating someone who you know isn’t right for you, the less time you have to get out there and find someone who is perfect. It’s so important that you cut poor relationships sooner rather than later, and that you do everything you can to try and focus on what you need. If you are married and want to end a poor relationship then consider getting some help from family law solicitors.
Enjoy some Alone Time
It’s important that you spend some time alone from time to time. A lot of people ignore this because it is easier to spend time with other people than it is to turn them down. If you are not careful then this can lead to an unbalanced lifestyle which isn’t good for your relationship at all. When you are able to spend time alone, you can then have a clearer mind and you can also help to process your own emotions too. Of course, this works both ways.
Let your Partner know How You Feel
You may tell your partner that you love them all the time, and you may even let them know that you care as well. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words and this is a great way for you to keep your relationship alive. You do have to know that expressing your love to your partner means understanding what affection means to them. You may love to be whisked away to a romantic destination, and that’s great. Your partner however may prefer to have a candlelit dinner at home with a movie. Either way, you need to focus on what they see as being affectionate rather than focusing on what you’d like.
Go that Extra Mile
It’s so important that you go that extra mile because your partner absolutely deserves it. This could be picking them up a box of their favourite chocolates on your way home from work, or even agreeing to watch their favourite movie twice in the same week. Little things like this can show your partner that you admire them and that you are willing to try hard in your relationship to make them happy. If they are willing to do the same, then this is the key to a long lasting and happy relationship.
One problem that a lot of people have when they are in a relationship is that they talk too much, and they don’t listen enough. If your partner has had a bad day at work, then let them vent to you first. Don’t try and offer them solutions or jump in to comfort them before they have finished talking. Sometimes people don’t want to hear an opinion, they just want someone to show empathy. By listening to them, you can then show them that you are there for them and that you are part of their immediate support network.
Life’s Not a Competition
All too often in relationships, people try and get one over on their partner. They relish the fact that they have a better job, that they earn more money or even that they do more around the house in general. In a relationship, everything is equal and you need to enjoy the life that you have. If everything is a competition to you, then this won’t be doing your relationship any favours and you may even find that you make your other half feel unimportant or not good enough when compared to you.
When you are in an argument, you may find it difficult to really see things from their point of view. You may also find it difficult to control your anger as well. This is understandable, but it is so important that you take a step back from time to time. You also need to make decisions that reflect your logical or rational thinking, rather than basing them on your emotions. If you continually base your decisions on your emotions, then you may end up being rash and you may say things that you will go on to regret. This can cause major issues for you in the future and it may even jeopardise your relationship. If you are finding it hard to think logically or rationally then take some time away, sit by yourself or even get in the shower. This time will give you the chance to think and it will also help you to come to terms with what has been said, and what you can do to try and resolve the situation.
Know your Partner
When you know someone on a deeper level, you know that person in the same way they know themselves. You know what makes them so special and you also know how they feel without even asking them. Of course, if you want to help your relationship to become the best that it can be then you need to take the time to learn what makes them tick and to also find out what makes them smile. By doing this, you can then be sure to nurture your relationship.
You’re Still You
Your partner is not all of you, but they are certainly a big part of you. You can’t ignore yourself just to make them happy because you will never end up being satisfied this way. You need to learn how to love yourself as well as them. Remember that if you do happen to go through a breakup, that you are still your own person and that it is more than possible for you to function without them. Looking after yourself is just as important as looking after them, and the sooner you understand this, the better you will be as a result.
Respect really does play a huge part in any relationship. You may love someone, but that doesn’t mean that you respect them. You need to take the time to really think about your actions and how it is going to affect them. For example, you may care about someone deeply, but if you never take their opinion into account or even give them the chance to talk then this won’t help your relationship. Take the time to listen to what your partner has to say, even if you don’t agree with it. Treat them like they are a human being and speak how you’d like to be spoken to.
Don’t Put Them Down
It’s very common for people to put other people down, just because it makes themselves feel better. You should never do this to anyone. When you do this, it puts the two of you at a loss and it could even have a long-lasting effect on your relationship. If you feel the need to put them down just to help yourself then take some time to think about why you are doing this. Do you feel inferior? DO you find it hard to see yourself as being equal to them? If so, take the time to talk it out and also try and see the world through their eyes. When you do this, you can then begin to see how you look to the world and this can give you a completely new perspective.
Look After Yourself
When you are in a new relationship, you may feel the need to put on perfume in the morning. You may even dress up to make yourself look good, or even put the extra effort to put on makeup. This is great, and there is a chance that your partner will be doing the same. Over time, you may not feel the need to do this anymore. This is understandable, and it is completely normal. Sometimes, by revisiting old habits, you can help yourself to remember why you fell in love with that person, and you can also feel as though you are trying harder as well. Self-care has a huge part to play when you are in a relationship and the more you try and focus on this, the better you will feel. So, the next time you are going out for date night, wear a nice necklace, put on your favourite perfume or even try and wear an outfit you have never worn before. This shows your partner that you care, and that you are trying to look your best. After all, when you look your best, you feel your best!