“Just call on me brother (or sister), when you need a hand”
I find meeting new people really difficult.
As a 5 year old it’s pretty easy
“I like your hair band, let’s be friends”
“I don’t like the colour of your shoes, I don’t like you”.
Simple. It may not make sense but everyone knows where they stand!
When Aoife started school one of my biggest concerns (after how she would settle in) was the other Mums in the playground. After seeing all the horror stories from parents rocking up in their pyjamas to parents brawling and the more passive aggressive Judgey Judgeypants parents, it’s safe to say I was dreading it.
To anyone out there who maybe feels a bit alone or like they’re not coping whilst everyone around them does or that they’re parenting terribly, I sincerely hope YOU find that ‘other’ Mum. If not, I’m here and happy to lay my parenting foibles out here for you all to see.
But not judge. No one likes a Judgey McJudgison!
Hmmmm, this is all a bit serious today.
“Who is your favourite Paw Patrol?”
“I don’t have a favourite”
“But who do you like best?”
“I like them all the same?”
“But which one most?”
“I don’t know, Chase? I like Chase best”
“I like Skye best, do you like Skye best?”
“No, I said I like Chase best”
“I like Chase best”
“I thought you liked Skye best?”
“No, I like Chase”
“Who do you like next best?”
“GAAAAAHHHHHHH None of them! I don’t really have a favourite, I just said I did to stop you asking”
“Do you like Skye next best?”
“Yes, I like Skye”
“OK, Who’s your favourite on Blaze?”
*Finds closest wall for head to come into alignment with*
^^^See, bad parenting right there.
He he – you need the mums like that in your life. I don’t try and hide it to be honest. When even getting to my children’s classroom has been a mission for the day (and it’s already 8:50ish AM!), people can read it on my face! And if they ask, they’re going to get it all! 😉 The Paw Patrol thing made me laugh… but sorry she’s giving you a hard time sometimes! I’m with you here! Thanks for your honest and thanks for sharing #blogstravaganza
I can no longer hide my bad days! I was OK at it with my first but my boy has me so exasperated I’m FFS-ing all over the place! Thanks for reading 🙂
Ah it’s so great that you found someone who you get on with. I’m similar to you in that I would spend hours after talking to someone worrying about what I’d said. We’re all in this parenting boat together and it’s so nice when we meet other people that realise that too! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx
Yeah we fell out…..I’m kidding! She went back to work so she isn’t in the mummy zone anymore. So it’s back to just me being a dick 🙂 Thanks for reading x
That made me giggle ? hope there’s another one of us out there for you! Xx
Aww, just read the comments above too and sorry to hear she went back to work! I had a crew of mam friends from my daughter going to nursery and then through school, over the years it dwindled, some ended up actually working in the school as TAs and one as a teacher!, some fell out, and some moved away. Then we moved away! I feel a little bit isolated again, but looking forward to the little one starting nursery so I can do it all over again. Or am I? I HAVE NO IDEA! ??
It’s good to have at least a friendly face to see every day though, I totally get that. Us internet folks are pretty cool ? but it’s so helpful and reassuring to have that “real-life” support network too. It’s hard to seek them out sometimes though, which sucks.
Thank you so much for choosing me as your #blogcrush ??
If I could carry my laptop everywhere and facetime everyone Internet friends would be the best! 🙂
I totally get this! I find it really hard to make mum friends but the few I do have are other mums who don’t mind talking about the shitty side of parenting and just telling it like it is. I am so glad you found a school mum friend, it is always nice when you can talk about non mummy stuff too. Haha your conversation about Paw Patrol at the end made me laugh, sounds awfully familiar! Thank you for linking this up to #BlogCrush
My school mum friend and I drifted, she went back to work. I’m interviewing for the role of new friend again soon ? thanks for reading x
As mean as it sounds, it does feel comforting to hear that other moms are having a tough time too, doesn’t it? Just makes you feel a little bit less crap about yourself, and a whole lot less lonelier in this parenting saga! A very relatable post… hope you find another like-minded mum friend soon:)
Yes! It’s not nice to see anyone struggle but it’s a relief to know you’re not the only one! I’m going to audition for a new friend soon ? thanks for reading x
Lovely read, the last bit made me laugh! #BLOGCRUSH xx
Yeah but the important question is….Who’s YOUR favourite? xx
I’ve never really been a chatty mum in the playground, although when my kids first started school, I was waiting outside the one day when some guy came up to me and pulled up his trouser leg to show me he’d injured his knee…I’d never spoken to him before and it was all a bit weird. However, it turned out that weirdos attract and we became good friends to the point he’d call at my house for us in the morning. We both moved house and the kids moved schools, but we still keep in touch.
That is the nicest school playground story I ever heard 🙂 Thanks for reading
If we all just stopped trying to act so together all the time we would actually realise we are all th same and so would probably gravitate toward each other more! Share the lows and dont be afraid of putting yourself out there is always my advice! Love your writing x #blogcrush
I absolutely agree with you! If it wasn’t made to feel like one big competition at times we might enjoy it even more! Thanks for reading 🙂 x
Oh how I loved this post, and I do know we would be friends, no judging even attempted. What a lovely idea of an authentic group of mums who tell the real deal! The tantrums, the mess, the chaos, the waste, the deafness… and of course it is all balnced with the beautiful love that they fill our hearts with… wait, did you just get ketchup on me from 10 feet away? Ugh #blogcrush xoxoxo
Thanks for such a nice comment, we’d all be happier and less stressed if we just shared our woe! have a great day x